HOW TO MAINTAIN KID'S CONFIDENCE

Acknowledge Your Child's Individualism

It is quite natural for parents to get too much involved in their child's activities. However, they often don't know that disregarding kids' individuality may put a question mark in their aptitude. It is of course, important to guide your child and participate in his activities, but it is more vital to acknowledge his individuality. He should be given the freedom and opportunity to develop himself at his own pace.   

Impart Knowledge

Effective communication is the prerequisite to develop a strong bond with your child. Share your knowledge of life with him. He should not be in the dark about the basic facts related to health, life, and the society.

Be a Good Listener

Along with being a storehouse of knowledge, it is also important for you to be a good listener. Always lend an ear to the grievances as well as the desires of your child. This will create a better understanding.

Praise Your Child

Acknowledge all his achievements, no matter whether they are big or small. "Well done!" or "Keep up the good work!" are some words that can prove to be magical - they can boost your child's confidence and motivate him to reach greater heights.

Value Your Child's Interests

If you want to maintain your child's confidence, you should start respecting all his interests, even if they seem irrelevant to you.

Remove Fears

As a parent, it is your duty to remove the insecurities or fears of your child. If he expresses them - even if they seem to be trivial, be ready to accept them. For instance, if he loses confidence in doing small problems of Mathematics and every time says, "I am useless, I can't solve even small problems," it means that he is less confident in it. In such case, you should not brush him aside, rather extend assistance to him.

Reasons Why Children Misbehave

·         Children misbehave to get attention. It is frequently noticed that when children feel a lack of attention, they get themselves noticed by their parents, by resorting to misbehaviour.

·         Children misbehave when they feel inadequate or suffer from a lack of confidence, especially when they are asked to do something new. Children are too scared to try it out and hence, may misbehave to avoid doing the task.

·         Children misbehave when they do not feel well. Healthy food, sound sleep and fresh air are the necessities for the children and when they lack even a single one of them, they end up misbehaving.

·         Children misbehave when they are upset. When a child is upset and does not know how to give vent to his/her feelings, he/she often starts misbehaving.

·         Children misbehave when they are disappointed. Sometimes, children get irritated and frustrated when things do not happen as per their wished. It is during these times that they usually misbehave.

·         Children misbehave when they are discouraged. It is often noted that children are pointed out when they do something wrong, but are not patted on the back when they do something right. This brings in a lot of discouragement in their mind-set, which results in misbehaviour.

·         Children misbehave when they feel unloved. A loving relationship between the parent and the child is very essential, which when not there makes the child behave badly.

·         Children misbehave when they imitate parents. It is mostly noted that children see their parents as their role model. A bad behaviour by parents is likely to be imitated by the child, resulting in misbehaviour.

·         Children test their parent's discipline. To check that their parents truly mean what they say, sometimes children misbehave. They check if their parent's would enforce a rule or not.

·         Children misbehave when they want to assert their independence. Almost all the children hate being called a 'child'. To assert their independence, they often end up misbehaving.

Teaching Kids Respect 

·         It is very important to give your child respect. You must have heard that it is only when you show respect, you will get respect. Show respect to your children. Give them full attention and listen to them properly, because it is only this way that you will be able to make them understand how important it is to have respect for others in a relationship.

·         Children learn from elders. To teach manners to your child, you should be well-mannered yourself. Words like "please" and "thank you" can be taught to a child, only if you use them. Politeness is also something that can be incorporated among the children only if the parents show gracious behaviour.

·         It is not always necessary that your child will think or feel the same way as you do. Disagreeing with a person does not account to being disrespectful. You can explain and give reason for what you think is right, but do not impose everything on your children. Your child can disagree with you and still respect you.

·         To react is good, but overreaction is bad. Whenever there is a situation that requires you to be strict, show a firm behaviour. However, do not start shouting or abusing. Remember one thing, your child learns from you. If you get hyper and start to yell, your child would learn that and would exhibit such behaviour in future. You can be firm and strict, but still show respect.

·         Let the child know his/her limits. It is very important for you to set a definite boundary for the child. If he/she acts rebellious, discuss the reasons for the set parameters. A child will always want more freedom, but would respect being given limits, if he/she knows and appreciates the reason for the same.

·         One thing that is very important for you is to praise you child when he/she shows desirable behaviour. Whenever a child exhibits respectful behaviour at home or outside, let him/her know that you are proud of him/her. This will encourage your child to be respectful in future as well.